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Evangelical Baptist Church Constitution Part 1

What Am I Doing In Church?

 

 

Member Responsibilities

 

 

Evangelical Baptist Church Constitution Part 1

Acts 2 41-47

 

 

 

(Taken from EBC Constitution Article V, section C, subsection 2)

 

RESPONSIBILITY AND CONDUCT OF MEMBERS

 

The responsibilities of members are set forth in general terms in the Church

Covenant. In addition and by way of clarification, a member in good

standing shall strive to maintain, with the Lord’s help, the highest ideals of Christian living as suggested in the following paragraphs:

 

a)         MEMBERS TO THE LORD. It shall be the duty of each member of this Church

to strive to put the Lord Jesus Christ first in his life; to “present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God” (Romans 12:1) and to heed the Scripture which says “And whatever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men. Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance; for ye serve the Lord Christ.” (Colossians 3:23,24)

 

b)         MEMBERS TO THEMSELVES. It shall be the duty of each member of this

Church to strive to acquire a knowledge of the Scriptures for himself

and his family: to “grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and

Savior, Jesus Christ…” (II Peter 3:18); to strive for a moment by

moment walk in dependence upon the Holy Spirit so as not to “fulfill the

lust of the flesh” (Galatians 5:16); and to live a consistent Christian life.

 

c)         MEMBERS TO THEIR CHURCH. It shall be the duty of each member of this

Church to strive to attend the services of their church faithfully and to invite and encourage others to attend; to be friendly and sociable at the services and meetings of the Church; to contribute regularly and cheerfully (II Corinthians 9:6,7) to the local expenses and missionary program of the church “as God hath prospered him” (I Corinthians 16:2);

to help willingly in whatsoever way possible in the program of the church; to pray daily for the spiritual welfare of the church (Ephesians 6:18), and if at any time he finds himself opposed to the fundamental doctrines of the Church as expressed in the Statement of Faith, or if for any other reason is unable to harmonize with the decisions of the  Church or with other members, he will quietly and in a Christian manner withdraw himself from the membership by taking his membership to another church.

 

d)         MEMBERS TO OTHER MEMBERS. It shall be the duty of each member of this

Church to strive to cultivate and cherish Christian love for the other members regardless of their action toward us; to visit and sympathize with members in affliction; to pray with and for each other; to consider it a privilege to administer financial help to other members who may be in need at any time; to guard each others reputation (“Thou shalt not go up and down as a talebearer among thy people…” Leviticus 19:16); and to strive by all proper means to promote one another’s spiritual welfare.

 

e)         MEMBERS TO THEIR PASTOR. It shall be the duty of each member of this

Church to strive at all times to honor and “esteem them very highly in love for their work’s sake” (I Thessalonians 5:12,13); to pray for him in the scriptural exercise of his official authority; to “obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves; for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account…” (Hebrews 13:17); to regularly attend upon his ministrations; to guard his reputation (I Timothy 5:19); and to contribute to his support in proportion to their ability (Philippians 4:16,17; I Corinthians 9:7,9,10,13,14; I Timothy 5:18).  They should assist him in carrying out the program of the Lord Jesus Christ in the Church.

 

f)         MEMBERS TOWARD THOSE NOT IN THE CHURCH. It shall be the duty of each member of this Church to strive to win their friends, neighbors, etc., to the Lord Jesus Christ by their personal witness; living a consistent Christian life before the unsaved; and by inviting them to attend the services of this Church with them.

 

 

 

I.                   Members to the Lord

 

A.     Be a living sacrifice

 

Romans 12:1

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.

 

1.     Holy – keep a short account of sin

2.     Acceptable to God – come to Him on His terms

3.     This is only reasonable

 

B.      Be excellent in everything you do

 

Colossians 3:23-24

23 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; 24 Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.

 

1.     Mediocrity is not an option

2.     Eternal reward is at stake

 

II.                Members to Themselves

 

A.     Grow in spiritual maturity

 

2 Peter 3:18

18 But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen.

 

1.     Take personal responsibility for your spiritual growth.

2.     Grow in Grace – experiencing God’s power

3.     Grow in Knowledge – experiencing God’s love.

 

Ephesians 3:14-21

14 For this cause I bow my knees unto the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, 15 Of whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, 16 That he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, to be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man; 17 That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love, 18 May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height; 19 And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fulness of God. 20 Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us, 21 Unto him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end. Amen.

 

B.      Walk in the Spirit

 

Galatians 5:16

16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. 

 

1.     Walk = a series of steps in the same direction

2.     Yield to the Spirit, starve and ignore the flesh.

Romans 13:14

14 But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof.

 

Romans 6:12-13

12 Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof. 13 Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God. 

 

 

III.             Members to their Church

 

A.     Attend services faithfully

 

Hebrews 10:25

25 Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.

 

B.      Invite and encourage others to attend

 

Hebrews 10:24

24 And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works:

 

Acts 2:46-47

46 And they, continuing daily with one accord in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, did eat their meat with gladness and singleness of heart,  47 Praising God, and having favour with all the people. And the Lord added to the church daily such as should be saved.

 

C.     Be friendly at the services

 

Proverbs 18:24

24 A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

 

D.     Give financially

 

 

 

Malachi 3:8-11

8 Will a man rob God? Yet ye have robbed me. But ye say, Wherein have we robbed thee? In tithes and offerings. 9 Ye are cursed with a curse: for ye have robbed me, even this whole nation. 10 Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the LORD of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it.  11 And I will rebuke the devourer for your sakes, and he shall not destroy the fruits of your ground; neither shall your vine cast her fruit before the time in the field, saith the LORD of hosts. 

 

2 Corinthians 9:6-7

6 But this I say, He which soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly; and he which soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully. 7 Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.

 

E.      Serve in the church

 

Matthew 20:26-27

26 But it shall not be so among you: but whosoever will be great among you, let him be your minister; 27 And whosoever will be chief among you, let him be your servant:

 

F.      Pray for the church

 

Ephesians 6:18

18 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;

 

G.     If you cannot in good conscience remain one mind with the assembly, leave and find an assembly where you can.

 

Philippians 2:1-2

If there be therefore any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any bowels and mercies, 2 Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind.

 

1.     Doctrine

2.     Business decisions

What Are You Looking For?

Matthew 20:17-34

Preached Sunday Morning, March 28, 2009

 

 

I.                   Jesus is our example for proper motivation

 

Matthew 20:17-19

17 And Jesus going up to Jerusalem took the twelve disciples apart in the way, and said unto them, 18 Behold, we go up to Jerusalem; and the Son of man shall be betrayed unto the chief priests and unto the scribes, and they shall condemn him to death, 19 And shall deliver him to the Gentiles to mock, and to scourge, and to crucify him: and the third day he shall rise again.

 

A.     Jesus was selfless

 

Philippians 2:5-8

5  Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: 6 Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: 7 But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: 8 And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross. 

 

B.     Jesus was humble

 

John 1:10-11

10 He was in the world, and the world was made by him, and the world knew him not. 11 He came unto his own, and his own received him not.

 

C.     Jesus was totally surrendered to God’s will

 

Isaiah 53:4-6,10

4 Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted. 5 But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.   6 All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the LORD hath laid on him the iniquity of us all. 

 

10 Yet it pleased the LORD to bruise him; he hath put him to grief: when thou shalt make his soul an offering for sin, he shall see his seed, he shall prolong his days, and the pleasure of the LORD shall prosper in his hand. 

 

Matthew 26:39,42

39 And he went a little further, and fell on his face, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt.

 

42 He went away again the second time, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if this cup may not pass away from me, except I drink it, thy will be done.

 

John 10:17-18

17 Therefore doth my Father love me, because I lay down my life, that I might take it again. 18 No man taketh it from me, but I lay it down of myself. I have power to lay it down, and I have power to take it again. This commandment have I received of my Father.

 

II.                Do you seek titles and recognition?

Matthew 20:20-24

20 Then came to him the mother of Zebedee’s children with her sons, worshipping him, and desiring a certain thing of him. 21 And he said unto her, What wilt thou? She saith unto him, Grant that these my two sons may sit, the one on thy right hand, and the other on the left, in thy kingdom. 22 But Jesus answered and said, Ye know not what ye ask. Are ye able to drink of the cup that I shall drink of, and to be baptized with the baptism that I am baptized with? They say unto him, We are able. 23 And he saith unto them, Ye shall drink indeed of my cup, and be baptized with the baptism that I am baptized with: but to sit on my right hand, and on my left, is not mine to give, but it shall be given to them for whom it is prepared of my Father. 24 And when the ten heard it, they were moved with indignation against the two brethren.

 

A.     What motivates you?

B.     Some are motivated by public recognition

C.     We must serve unconditionally, not based upon perceived reputation and recognition?

1.     Are you willing to serve, if no one knows about it?

2.     Are you willing to serve if you do not get a title for your efforts?

3.     Will you continue to serve if people are not constantly patting you on the back telling you what a wonderful Christian you are?

III.             Do you seek to serve out of love?

Matthew 20:25-28

25 But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Ye know that the princes of the Gentiles exercise dominion over them, and they that are great exercise authority upon them. 26 But it shall not be so among you: but whosoever will be great among you, let him be your minister; 27 And whosoever will be chief among you, let him be your servant: 28 Even as the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many.

 

A.     The world is motivated by great authority

1.     The threat from it

2.     The promotion to it

B.     God promotes based on service

C.     One must be others oriented in order to honor God.

Philippians 2:1-4

If there be therefore any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any bowels and mercies, 2 Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. 3 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. 4 Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.

 

IV.              Do you seek deliverance?

 

Matthew 20:29-34

29 And as they departed from Jericho, a great multitude followed him. 30 And, behold, two blind men sitting by the way side, when they heard that Jesus passed by, cried out, saying, Have mercy on us, O Lord, thou Son of David. 31 And the multitude rebuked them, because they should hold their peace: but they cried the more, saying, Have mercy on us, O Lord, thou Son of David. 32 And Jesus stood still, and called them, and said, What will ye that I shall do unto you? 33 They say unto him, Lord, that our eyes may be opened. 34 So Jesus had compassion on them, and touched their eyes: and immediately their eyes received sight, and they followed him.

 

A.     A great crowd followed Jesus

 

B.      Two blind men aggressively sought Jesus

 

1.     Son of David – Messiah

2.     Cried aloud

3.     Have mercy

4.     Total humility and dependence while seeking deliverance

 

C.     The Blind men endured the scornful crowd

 

D.     They made specific requests

 

E.        They received a specific answer.

 

 

Kingdom Principles of Reward

Matthew 19:27-20:16

Preached Sunday Morning, March 22, 2009

 

Introduction:

 

          We have learned several Bible principles in our Sunday morning visits so far.  We have discovered that salvation does not come through our own merit or effort.  Last week we discovered that Jesus paid the price for our sin on the cross, because we could not pay for sin through our works.  If works do not count for us to get to Heaven, then what is our motivation to do right?  

 

          In our passage this morning we are going to discover that God does reward His servants.  We will see that no matter what we may see with our finite understanding, God is always fair and just.  As we labor together to serve God on Planet Earth, let us conform our thinking to God’s Word as we consider the Kingdom Principles of Reward.

 

I.                   Forsake and Follow

 

Matthew 19:27

27 Then answered Peter and said unto him, Behold, we have forsaken all, and followed thee; what shall we have therefore?

 

A.     Forsake worldly lusts

 

1 John 2:15-17

15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. 17 And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.

 

1.     The Lust of the Flesh

2.     The Lust of the Eyes

3.     The Pride of Life

 

 

B.     Forsake selfish career goals

 

Matthew 4:20-22

20 And they straightway left their nets, and followed him. 21 And going on from thence, he saw other two brethren, James the son of Zebedee, and John his brother, in a ship with Zebedee their father, mending their nets; and he called them. 22 And they immediately left the ship and their father, and followed him.

 

Matthew 9:9

9 And as Jesus passed forth from thence, he saw a man, named Matthew, sitting at the receipt of custom: and he saith unto him, Follow me. And he arose, and followed him.

 

Philippians 3:8

8 Yea doubtless, and I count all things but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord: for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ,

 

C.     Forsake any personal and selfish priorities that conflict with the will of God.

 

Luke 14:27-33

27 And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple. 28 For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it? 29 Lest haply, after he hath laid the foundation, and is not able to finish it, all that behold it begin to mock him, 30 Saying, This man began to build, and was not able to finish. 31 Or what king, going to make war against another king, sitteth not down first, and consulteth whether he be able with ten thousand to meet him that cometh against him with twenty thousand? 32 Or else, while the other is yet a great way off, he sendeth an ambassage, and desireth conditions of peace. 33 So likewise, whosoever he be of you that forsaketh not all that he hath, he cannot be my disciple.

 

II.                Sow and Reap

Matthew 19:28-29

28 And Jesus said unto them, Verily I say unto you, That ye which have followed me, in the regeneration when the Son of man shall sit in the throne of his glory, ye also shall sit upon twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel. 29 And every one that hath forsaken houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name’s sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life.

 

A.     This is an undeniable universal law

 

Galatians 6:7-9

7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. 8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. 9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.

Psalm 126:6

6 He that goeth forth and weepeth, bearing precious seed, shall doubtless come again with rejoicing, bringing his sheaves with him. 

 

B.     There are rewards in this life

Mark 10:29-30

29 And Jesus answered and said, Verily I say unto you, There is no man that hath left house, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my sake, and the gospel’s, 30 But he shall receive an hundredfold now in this time, houses, and brethren, and sisters, and mothers, and children, and lands, with persecutions; and in the world to come eternal life.

C.     There are eternal spiritual rewards

1 Corinthians 3:11-15

11 For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ. 12 Now if any man build upon this foundation gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, stubble; 13 Every man’s work shall be made manifest: for the day shall declare it, because it shall be revealed by fire; and the fire shall try every man’s work of what sort it is.  14 If any man’s work abide which he hath built thereupon, he shall receive a reward. 15 If any man’s work shall be burned, he shall suffer loss: but he himself shall be saved; yet so as by fire.

 

D.    Be assured of eternal significance for actions taken now.

1 Corinthians 15:58

58 Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord.

 

III.             Trust and Obey

A.     God chooses workers as He needs

 

 

 

Matthew 20:1-7

For the kingdom of heaven is like unto a man that is an householder, which went out early in the morning to hire labourers into his vineyard. 2 And when he had agreed with the labourers for a penny a day, he sent them into his vineyard.  3 And he went out about the third hour, and saw others standing idle in the marketplace, 4 And said unto them; Go ye also into the vineyard, and whatsoever is right I will give you. And they went their way. 5 Again he went out about the sixth and ninth hour, and did likewise. 6 And about the eleventh hour he went out, and found others standing idle, and saith unto them, Why stand ye here all the day idle? 7 They say unto him, Because no man hath hired us. He saith unto them, Go ye also into the vineyard; and whatsoever is right, that shall ye receive.

Ephesians 4:16

16 From whom the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body unto the edifying of itself in love.

 

B.     God will reward as He sees fit

Matthew 20:8-16

8 So when even was come, the lord of the vineyard saith unto his steward, Call the labourers, and give them their hire, beginning from the last unto the first. 9 And when they came that were hired about the eleventh hour, they received every man a penny. 10 But when the first came, they supposed that they should have received more; and they likewise received every man a penny. 11 And when they had received it, they murmured against the goodman of the house, 12  Saying, These last have wrought but one hour, and thou hast made them equal unto us, which have borne the burden and heat of the day.  13 But he answered one of them, and said, Friend, I do thee no wrong: didst not thou agree with me for a penny? 14 Take that thine is, and go thy way:  I will give unto this last, even as unto thee. 15  Is it not lawful for me to do what I will with mine own?  Is thine eye evil, because I am good? 16 So the last shall be first, and the first last: for many be called, but few chosen.

 

C.     We cannot understand His infinite ways with our finite minds

Isaiah 55:6-9

6 Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: 7 Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.   8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD. 9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.

Wrong Question, Right Answer

Matthew 19:16-26

Preached Sunday Morning, March 15, 2009

 

 

I.                   The Wrong Question – What Good Thing Must I Do?

 

Matthew 19:16-17

16 And, behold, one came and said unto him, Good Master, what good thing shall I do, that I may have eternal life? 17 And he said unto him, Why callest thou me good? there is none good but one, that is, God: but if thou wilt enter into life, keep the commandments.

 

A.     There is no one good but God

 

Romans 3:10,23

10 As it is written,  There is none righteous, no, not one:

 

23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;

 

B.     All stand condemned, because we have all fallen short of perfection.

 

Romans 6:23

23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

 

Revelation 21:8

8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.

 

C.     Therefore it is impossible to pay for sin by good deeds.

 

 

 

Romans 4:4

4 Now to him that worketh is the reward not reckoned of grace, but of debt.

 

Isaiah 64:6

6 But we are all as an unclean thing, and all our righteousnesses are as filthy rags; and we all do fade as a leaf; and our iniquities, like the wind, have taken us away.

 

II.                The Wrong Understanding of the Law

Matthew 19:17-22

17 And he said unto him, Why callest thou me good? there is none good but one, that is, God: but if thou wilt enter into life, keep the commandments. 18 He saith unto him, Which?  Jesus said, Thou shalt do no murder, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, 19 Honour thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. 20 The young man saith unto him, All these things have I kept from my youth up: what lack I yet? 21 Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me. 22 But when the young man heard that saying, he went away sorrowful: for he had great possessions.

 

A.     The law was made in order to expose unrighteousness, not create righteousness.

Romans 3:19-20

19 Now we know that what things soever the law saith, it saith to them who are under the law: that every mouth may be stopped, and all the world may become guilty before God.  20 Therefore by the deeds of the law there shall no flesh be justified in his sight: for by the law is the knowledge of sin.

B.     If one offends in one part of the law, he is guilty of breaking the whole law.

James 2:10-11

10 For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all. 11 For he that said, Do not commit adultery, said also, Do not kill. Now if thou commit no adultery, yet if thou kill, thou art become a transgressor of the law. 

C.     The law is a diagnostic tool to expose our need for salvation outside the law.

Romans 3:21-25

21 But now the righteousness of God without the law is manifested, being witnessed by the law and the prophets; 22 Even the righteousness of God which is by faith of Jesus Christ unto all and upon all them that believe: for there is no difference: 23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; 24 Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus: 25 Whom God hath set forth to be a propitiation through faith in his blood, to declare his righteousness for the remission of sins that are past, through the forbearance of God;  

III.             The Right Path to Salvation

A.     With man, salvation is impossible

Matthew 19:23-25

23 Then said Jesus unto his disciples, Verily I say unto you, That a rich man shall hardly enter into the kingdom of heaven. 24 And again I say unto you, It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God. 25 When his disciples heard it, they were exceedingly amazed, saying, Who then can be saved?

Ephesians 2:8-9

8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: 9 Not of works, lest any man should boast.

Galatians 2:21

21 I do not frustrate the grace of God: for if righteousness come by the law, then Christ is dead in vain.

 

B.     With God, salvation is made possible, through the substitutionary work of Jesus on the cross.

Matthew 19:26

26 But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.

Romans 5:8

8 But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

John 3:16

16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

2 Corinthians 5:21

21 For he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him.

 

Romans 10:13

13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.

A Biblical Understanding of Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage

Matthew 19:1-12

Preached Sunday Morning, March 8, 2009

 

Introduction:

 

          What exactly is marriage?  What makes it binding?  Over half of marriages today end in divorce.  What about remarriage?  These questions foster much discussion and debate among Bible believing Christians.

 

          The issue was also a hot topic during Jesus’ day.  The Pharisees wanted to trap Jesus by discussing this controversial issue.  Perhaps Jesus would utter a quotable sound bite that would serve as a tool with which to discredit Him.  In response to their question, Jesus gave some very clear and concise teaching.  This morning let us set aside our own personal feelings and traditions and discover from God’s perfect and preserved word, the King James Bible, a biblical understanding of Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage.           

 

I.                   The Purpose of Marriage

 

Matthew 19:3-5

3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

 

A.     God made humans to be male and female.  This was his plan for companionship and pro-creation.

B.     It is not generally good for man to be alone.

 

Genesis 2:18-20

18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.  19 And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.  20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. 

 

C.     God designs a woman specifically for a man.

 

Genesis 2:21-23

21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.  23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.  

 

D.    God’s perfect plan is a life-long marriage between one man and one woman.

 

Genesis 2:24-25

24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. 25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

 

1.     Leave their parents

2.     Stick to each other

3.     Become one flesh

 

1 Corinthians 7:1-2

Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

 

Hebrews 13:4

4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

 

4.     Reflect a picture of Christ’s love for the Church.

 

Ephesians 5:22-27

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

 

E.     Marriage is a public and binding covenant.

 

Malachi 2:14-16

14 Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. 15 And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.    16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.  

 

 

II.                The Provision of Divorce

Matthew 19:6-8

6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 8 He saith unto them,  Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

A.     Something that is one flesh should not be divided.

B.     Moses did allow for divorce.

Deuteronomy 24:1

When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.  

C.     This provision was only made to deal with man’s intense depravity.

D.    Divorce was never intended to be part of God’s perfect plan.

 

1.     Love is a commitment, not just a feeling

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,  5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; 6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;  7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

2.     To end a marriage is to break a covenant

3.     Divorce should never be considered by Christians as a way to resolve a love grown cold

4.     “You deserve to be happy” is an empty thought because God’s perfect plan for your happiness is a life long marriage.

III.             The Prohibition of Remarriage

Matthew 19:9-12

9 And I say unto you,  Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. 10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. 11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. 12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother’s womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.

 

A.     The General rule of marriage

1.     Marriage is a life long commitment

2.     If divorce happens, re-marriage should not happen because the covenant is still binding.

3.     Divorced couples are to remain single as long as the spouse is alive.

B.     The exception to the rule

1.     If a divorce is caused by infidelity, the offended spouse is not only allowed to divorce, but also to remarry.

2.     If an unbeliever leaves a believer over their faith – remarriage is allowed, not encouraged.

1 Corinthians 7:13-15

13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. 

1 Corinthians 7:27-28

27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. 28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.